The “wedding” or the “marriage”

The “wedding” or the “marriage”

For the first time, in writing I had to check the dictionary for the meaning of this my trending topic ….. The check was to back up my layman definition of the separate words highlighted as the topic…..

Wedding was defined as:

the act or an instance of blending or joining,especially opposite or contrasting elements, the act or ceremony of marrying;

Marriage on the other hand was defined as:

the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple,including the accompanying social festivities:

Having defined this two according to world accepted views, I would define it according to certain quotes/words from certain friends (single and married)

Wedding had the following definitions:
A day set aside by both families to display and show off their children.
A period of serenren in which parents are excited and the children are attendees.
The most interesting period of the joining of man and woman.
The happiest day for a woman prior to child birth.

Marriage on the other hand has more interesting definitions such as:

The coming together of man and woman under the same roof with the sole goal of mutual survival.
A prison where you are supposed to be confined for life but with all amenities to survive. J
The removal of “I” from every activity to be embarked upon. The “I” becomes “We”.
The total loss of freedom.

A friend said and I quote: “Can someone tell me if the Federal Government has given a grant for wedding/marriage since every Saturday is filled with HML (Happy Married Life)”. This got me laughing and also pondering on this issue. Is Married life really a happy one?

Everyone seems to be getting married but is it everyone that should be especially at the time they are doing so? Sometime ago, I wrote: “Yet another Saturday” and I got a lot of responses (funny ones I must say). J J

It is rather pathetic to see and hear stories of couples seeking divorce after 1 month, 3months, and 2 years, etc.  The fear of this and much more is what makes people like tolmega01 remain single (as a young boy who wants to get it right *winks).

I ask myself: What happened to endurance, patience, forbearance, submission, love, longsuffering? Are these virtues dead and gone with older generations?

To end this, I refer to a funny quote that makes sense especially for the currently single ones: “The wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made, don’t be 2 desperate and in a haste to wear it” …

And for the married ones: Life is not a bed of roses, thorns would be there. Stay strong and imbibe the wonderful virtues of old. Always try to remember, the reason you got married and let that sustain you. Above all, Gods help is needed (the religious tolmega01 says) J J

Shikena ……

……the gist continues later.