The “wedding” or the “marriage”

The “wedding” or the “marriage”

For the first time, in writing I had to check the dictionary for the meaning of this my trending topic ….. The check was to back up my layman definition of the separate words highlighted as the topic…..

Wedding was defined as:

the act or an instance of blending or joining,especially opposite or contrasting elements, the act or ceremony of marrying;

Marriage on the other hand was defined as:

the social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc. the legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of two people to live as a married couple,including the accompanying social festivities:

Having defined this two according to world accepted views, I would define it according to certain quotes/words from certain friends (single and married)

Wedding had the following definitions:
A day set aside by both families to display and show off their children.
A period of serenren in which parents are excited and the children are attendees.
The most interesting period of the joining of man and woman.
The happiest day for a woman prior to child birth.

Marriage on the other hand has more interesting definitions such as:

The coming together of man and woman under the same roof with the sole goal of mutual survival.
A prison where you are supposed to be confined for life but with all amenities to survive. J
The removal of “I” from every activity to be embarked upon. The “I” becomes “We”.
The total loss of freedom.

A friend said and I quote: “Can someone tell me if the Federal Government has given a grant for wedding/marriage since every Saturday is filled with HML (Happy Married Life)”. This got me laughing and also pondering on this issue. Is Married life really a happy one?

Everyone seems to be getting married but is it everyone that should be especially at the time they are doing so? Sometime ago, I wrote: “Yet another Saturday” and I got a lot of responses (funny ones I must say). J J

It is rather pathetic to see and hear stories of couples seeking divorce after 1 month, 3months, and 2 years, etc.  The fear of this and much more is what makes people like tolmega01 remain single (as a young boy who wants to get it right *winks).

I ask myself: What happened to endurance, patience, forbearance, submission, love, longsuffering? Are these virtues dead and gone with older generations?

To end this, I refer to a funny quote that makes sense especially for the currently single ones: “The wedding ring is the smallest handcuff ever made, don’t be 2 desperate and in a haste to wear it” …

And for the married ones: Life is not a bed of roses, thorns would be there. Stay strong and imbibe the wonderful virtues of old. Always try to remember, the reason you got married and let that sustain you. Above all, Gods help is needed (the religious tolmega01 says) J J

Shikena ……

……the gist continues later.

"Price tag

Price tag

The decision on how to start this was a task for my mind ….. I am tempted to reference songs by some certain musicians but then I chose to postpone the referencing…. Here is the build up to this particular one  …. I woke up on a certain Wednesday morning after being let down the previous day by a lady whom I really wanted to know better ( for the sharp ones guess you know what I mean *winks) ….. the pause … am sure some are shocked at that , am only human after all and I crave such (In 2 baba’s voice “ Nobody holy pass”)…..

As usual, I did my devotion as a striving good boy, said my prayers and the usual morning preparation and rush began as I discovered it was 6.05am (screaming in my mind “yeparipa” 3^rd mainland traffic). I rushed everything and was on my way by 6.35am …. Then tuned the radio to my favorite radio station 96.9 Cool FM (see cheap advert)….. Mannie and the angels are just something else; you can try them and am sure you won’t be disappointed.  Back to the gist, then came a motivational speaker talking about value and then he said something about “Raising your value – surpass all other expectations and then break your own record”…… Boom here came my topic “price tag”. 

The title reminds me of the song by Jessie J titled price tag …..

She said in the song: Seems like everybody's got a price, and then later she said It’s not about the money, money, money…… I like the song so much but the question I ask is if everyone has got a price and it’s not about the money, what exactly is the price?
While pondering on this, another song came to my ever active mind.

It is no other song but the one from the take banana artist (D ’prince) titled “goody bag”. The line that hit me most was: What’s your selling point? This also implies we all sell one thing or the other and for every sale there is a price.

As a sure boy (in my mind), I have seen and I have heard and am still seeing and still hearing.  It is so painful when one walks around and you see the price tag placed on certain people and worse still is to find out how cheap the price tag some people have placed on themselves.

I have a price tag; the value is just inestimable right now because I am a full package (I got the bragging right). Before you yab (insult) me, Ask yourself the question: What exactly is my price tag?

The gist continues with another title soon …………. Stay chilling and please make your price tag a valuable o

"Walking away"

Walking away

Singing Craig David’s song with my sexy voice (that’s definitely a joke) J

I'm walking away from the troubles in my life, I'm walking away oh to find a better day, I'm walking away from the troubles in my life, I'm walking away oh to find a better day
I'm walking away ……….

Then the long pause …….. And the mind begins its questioning once again.

Can one possibly walk away from the troubles in one’s life?  Do troubles ever cease? Can you truly walk away to find a better day? Is there something called a better day? Can you truly walk away?

I suddenly found an answer to these questions …. Am sure u want to know what my answers were J J or probably you just don’t care to find out because you are already answering them on my behalf (the solution providersJ)

The answers found were further reiterated with questions e.g.  The answer to Can you really walk away was YES YOU CAN (in Obamas voiceJ) but the picture below just summarizes the question line.

When is the right moment? Trust me; this is a very hard decision point. In my short stay in life as a young boyJ, I have had to walk away from so many things (love, job, etc let ur minds run wild). The point you decide it is the right moment, the next question that comes: Is it the right decision?

The question line never ceases and this usually defines the enormity and timeliness of taking a decision……….

“Choosing whether to walk away or try harder is a very hard decision to make in life” ….. Trust me on this because I am speaking from experience J J J….

I am so sure am not alone in this line of thought but one key thing is decisions must be made….

To wrap this up, I choose to quote the advice I got from a friend: Talk to God 2 make a decision for you because his decisions are 4 sure the best. All u need to do is assume you are a child that doesn’t know how to lift your leg and waiting for directions.

……. At this point I return to the initial song because truly I am Walking Away or better still I have walked away in some cases.  J

………………..more to come from the busy mind of tolmega01 J